Say No to Yes!Sometimes, saying no to yourself is harder than saying it to others. You might feel that you 'owe it to yourself' or 'Why not', or some other excuse. This can lead to spending way too much money, too much weight and having just too much stuff in your house.
Edit Steps
- 1Understand how your inability to say no relates to your history and/or childhood. Were you deprived of something, food or possessions, as a child? Did something happen in your early adulthood that affected you in that way? Understand what can cause issues like these.
- Deprivation as a child or adult
- Feeling that you are owed it
- Spend your money before someone else does
- 2'Talk' to that person inside you that is driving you. Let that person know that you love yourself and that you are going to have to show that love by setting, and accepting, limits. Too much, is too much.
- 3Start out small. Take baby steps when you begin denying yourself things that you historically have not denied yourself. Something like setting yourself a bed time and keeping to it instead of going to bed whenever you feel like it.
Start off with baby steps - 4Establish some guidelines or policies for yourself. Rules help us construct a norm and then stick to it.
Establish some guidelines or policies for yourself. - 5Prepare a 'stock answer'. Maybe when you say, "I want something' come back with, wait for 3 days to purchase it.
- 6Compromise. Teach yourself to compromise your desires with what it healthy for you.
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Edit Sources and Citations
- NAWLS.com
- Living the Balanced Life.com
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