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Stand back and observe the situation as if you are looking through a open window. Remember if change is going to happen it is up to you..IF IT"S TO BE..IT'S UP TO ME!

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    Be consistent in your approach.
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    When observing the commotion, remember to look for what isn't being spoken.
    • This is the time when less means more. A time to listen without judging.
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    Place yourself in the other persons place reminding yourself that there might be more happening for that person than you know.
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    When listening, give your full attention to the person by keeping eye contact and validating the other person.
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    Allow space for pauses and open expression.
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    Remind yourself that commotion is often driven from a place of feeling unheard, disrespected, unloved and not appreciated.
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    When looking for a solution, look inward at your role and what you can change to defuse the situation.
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    Remember you can only change you and your role in the commotion.
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    Often when we make a change that is positive by taking a walk or refusing to challenge the thinking of others the commotion stops.
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    Often commotion escalates when we feel the need to explain and express our views.
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    Remember when there is commotion you are not being heard.
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    When the commotion is deescalated and the house is returned to quiet ... it is time to have a talk about what happened and problem solve for the future.
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    Remember be positive ... instead of saying what you want to stop, rephrase it to what you want to see more of.
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    Remember to not allow the actions of others steal your power.
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    Forgive for yourself and move on keeping your power.
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    Remember forgiving doesn't mean condoning the actions it just means you are refusing to allow others to own your thinking.
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    Life is so short, live in the moment and make all your moments count.
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Recent edits by: Alex C, Gentry

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