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Marriage is a big step in life. Premarital counseling can help improve the chances of having a successful marriage and ensure that everything goes smoothly. Unfortunately, your partner may not think counseling is right for you.

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    Assess your situation. Are you planning on getting married soon? It may seem silly, but if you aren't engaged, then you don't need to force a partner in to premarital counseling.
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    Outline your reasons. There are many good, solid reasons to get premarital counseling. A good counselor can help you work out your relationship and plan for your future. Make a short list of all the specific reasons you want to see a counselor.
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    Search for premarital counselors. Many couples turn to religious leaders; others may want a secular counselor. Besides premarital counseling, you can also take marriage education classes. Look up trusted counselors who you would be comfortable seeing.
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    Present your argument. Lay out your reasons for wanting to see a premarital counselor. Point to specific areas, such as marriage success and peace of mind. Introduce the list of possible counselors, especially anybody your mate is familiar with.
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    Counter argue. A big reason someone might not want to see a premarital counselor is that it seems 'cold', 'calculated', or 'unromantic'. Your partner might even think you expect your marriage to fail ahead of time, which is why you need counseling. If this is the case, explain that you want to be with them for the rest of your life, and you want to do everything you can to keep the two of you together forever.
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    Be prepared to confront the issue again. One talk might not make up your mate's mind. If your partner is undecided, let the issue rest and return to it later with new information. Avoid arguing or running in circles with the issue.
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  • Don't be too aggressive or assertive, which may make your partner shut down.
  • Try not to bribe your fiance into seeing a counselor, which will cheapen the experience.
  • Don't force your partner into counseling; if they are not open to the experience, it will create a rift in your relationship and they will gain little from the sessions.
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Categories: Married Life

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