How to Stop Criticizing Others
When dealing with others, it is all too easy to find fault, to criticize, and to condemn. How often do criticisms lead to actual change and improvement? Ninety-nine times out of a hundred, we find that people don't criticize themselves for anything, despite how wrong they might be.
Criticism is futile, because it puts a person on the defensive and cause him to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's pride and arouses resentment. Criticism is vain, because in judging others, we regard ourselves as more righteous than they.
To obtain cooperation from others, abstain from criticism. Follow these steps, the next time you are tempted to criticize.
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1Instead of criticizing others, try to understand them. Step back, try to see things from their perspectives, and figure out why they do what they do.Ad -
2Ask yourself: if I were under similar circumstances as they, and endowed with the same temperament as they, is it not possible that I would have done the same thing as they did? -
3Think back of all the mistakes you have made in your life. Then consider: who am I to cast stones? -
4Strengthen your character and self-control. Hold back an acrid tongue. -
5Be sympathetic, tolerant, kind, and forgiving. -
6Stop expecting too much from others. Realize that no one is perfect and all of life is a learning curve. Appreciate all the good things that others have done. Speak ill of no one, and speak of all the good you know of everyone. -
7To effect change and improvement in others, begin on yourself. It is far less dangerous than criticizing others, and more profitable. Don't attempt to remove a mote from your brother's eye, when a beam is in your own eye. First cast out the mote out of your own eye, then you will see clearly to cast out the mote out of your brother's eye.Ad
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