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How to get out of a union or a relationship with grace? Sure you could just walk away or disappear but this is not cool. There are ways to end a relationship that are honorable. Your partner deserves honor. Plus it helps you to grow as a person.

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    Have you tried counseling? If not, couples counseling can show you if there is a chance to stay together and have that sweet love again.
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    If not, then couples counseling can help you part. And you have a third person there who is not emotionally charged. Its definitely worth the money.
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    Next, be honorable. Take the high road. Talk with your partner about your feelings and that you feel that you need to part. Plus listen to her.
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    Don't say things like its all your fault. Try not to place blame.
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    Consider writing a nice letter. Dear Susan, I love you and always will. But our relationship is not working and I have to leave. I apologize for all that I have done that didn't help the relationship. You are a wonderful person and I thank you for all you have given me. I will be moving out in two weeks and hope we can always be friends.
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    Lets discuss how we are going to separate, divide the possessions and make it comfortable.
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    A good, kind, letter helps. This is not easy. It is not easy for either person and there are a lot of emotions and memories.
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    Don't go to bed for one last time. That is not nice.
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    Contact a good friend of your partner so that you know that she has support during this time.
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    Don't do anything nasty, take all credit cards, empty bank acct., trash the house, hit on her best friend. etc. You might want to see a counselor to have someone to talk to to process all this. And to learn from this relationship.
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    When you think back about this relationship, make a list of all the good things you got from it. When you want to call her and start again, then list all the bad things you are glad that you are rid of.
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    When you talk to other people about why you broke up, don't trash your ex. Frankly it only makes you look bad. Instead say, "Susan was great. We just got to a point where our values were different and we weren't growing. I will always care for her."
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