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Some people aren't ready to date as soon as possible. Many people need time to get their life together or may not be sure if they are ready to take the next step. You should tell your friend if you are ready or not. Don't be scared and not say anything, it's best if you speak up.

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    Be sure to still keep your friendship strong with the person and talk to them as friends.
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    Be open about your feelings, but don't go overboard and give the person an impossible hope. If they like you; they will turn your words around in their head to try to find something to hope for. Don't be afraid to hurt their feelings. As much as it hurts, it would be worse to lead them along. When you dip into 'more than friends' you have a right to say no. They will move on eventually. Make your choice clear, but don't say it in a mean way. Doing it in person is best because it's more personal. Try not to burn the bridges and get angry when they object, because when people get hurt they will often lash out. Don't take it to heart give them some space.
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    Try not to focus too hard on the fact that they like you; try keeping the conversations light and friendly.
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    Focus on YOUR life. Perhaps start going to the gym, start a new hobby, focus on work or school. Improve your life on your own, and don't feel like you need to have a partner to be happy.
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    Evaluate why you're not ready for a relationship. Whether it be because of a recent breakup, bad experiences in the past, your first time, fear of intimacy, nervousness, whatever the issue. Pinpoint what you need to do to improve on that. Start working on self confidence, stand by your choices. If it's getting over an ex; focus on rebuilding your life and letting go of them. When your mind is clear and you think you can handle a relationship, don't rush it. Keep your hobbies going, go out with friends, and maybe meet some new people.
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    When you meet knew people; look at that list and see if they meet your standards. Sometimes we do need room for compromise, but make sure they are still the type of person to bring out the best in you.
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    Notice how you feel around them; do they make you nervous? excited? proud? confident? or do they make you feel self conscious, uncertain or not confident about yourself? Take note of that, it is VERY important.
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    When you find the right person; take things slow. Go out on a few dates, or get to know them as a friend. Don't rush on the physical stuff either, never feel obligated to rush yourself. Do what makes you comfortable, and make sure they respects that.
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    If you really love each other, be honest. Just be confident to tell her everything, because if you really love each other, you'll understand.
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EditTips

  • Be honest with yourself and others.
  • Don't worry about making the person upset! Be respectful but sometimes there's no way around hurting someone's feelings
  • Wait until you are ready (and you'll know) before you jump out there.
  • If you aren't ready and someone tries to set you up, then go and enjoy yourself, but let them know you aren't looking for anything but being friends.
  • Love yourself first. Freedom and change should be your priorities.
  • If someone asks you out either turn them down or tell them you would only as a friend
  • Just ask them fuck off.

EditWarnings

  • Don't rush it.
  • Don't feel pressured to do something you aren't ready for
  • Don't lead someone on
  • Don't let your feelings of loneliness convince you to ignore the fact that you aren't ready. Hang out with friends or family if you need to.
  • Always be your self.
  • Don't listen or mind what others says.

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Categories: Dating

Recent edits by: Panda_samawich, Jenny Watts, Scantogo102

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