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Getting tweens to talk is a very easy thing to do, and while it may seem difficult it just takes understanding.During this period of time in a persons life their going through emotional and physical changes so they may feel stand-offish. It is quite simple, in fact it's just like talking to anyone else. Tweens understand that they're looked at differently, so they require some patience.

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    Start off by casually asking them questions. By asking questions the tween will feel cared about, not something that people try to avoid. If they like sports. ask about a certain sport team, if they're into music ask about a certain genre of music or specific artist.
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    Ease into the main point of the conversation, if there is one. If your trying to talk just to talk then keep going on. Talk about common interests or just random things. If there's a main point of the talk like if your trying to go for "the talk" or just something serious then ease it in. Don't shock them. Don't go from 'yeah, I like the Mets" to "always wear protection!" Ease it in casually.
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    Once you've gotten the ball rolling, don't stop then. If you've gotten the topic across let an actual conversation form. Listen to what they have to say, say what you wanted to say. Let them know you care.
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    Don't judge them. If they say something you don't agree with, don't flip out. If they say something that does need to be corrected (and you will know in your heart if it's something truly bad or something juvenile and silly).
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    Worst comes to worst, they won't talk. If this happens, just understand that some people just are not people persons. If you really need to talk to them, then try a different time. Let them cool off if it ended badly and try in about a week or two.
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EditTips

  • Have the conversation over a meal, or while spending time together. For example, while watching TV or taking a ride in the car.
  • Remember that a huge part of this and getting tweens to open up is about understanding and listening.

EditWarnings

  • Don't try to be someone you're not while talking to this tween. Like don't don't try to be their total BFF while you're usually a strict person, and don't try to be super strict while you know you truly don't care.

EditThings You'll Need

  • an understanding, open mind
  • a tween
  • a casual approach

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