How to Avoid Dating when You Are Not Prepared

Are you worried about not being prepared to date? Don't even worry, it is totally understandable if you do not want to date because you're not ready! Whatever the reason, this article aims to give you a step by step guide on how to reject a date, but not lose a friendship. Just remember, just because other people are doing things doesn't mean you need to!

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Make it clear to the guy/girl that you don't want to be in a relationship. If someone asks you for a date, turn them down politely, with a legitimate reason - don't just say "no" and walk away; that may hurt their feelings. One should always respect others' feelings. For example, if they say, "Hey, will you go out with me?", you can reply, "Sorry, I'm just not ready for a relationship right now." Be careful adding in- "I really like you, it's just I don't think I am ready." Many people use this, and that is 100% okay! Remember to not spread rumors about this, and the next day see if they want space alone or are ready to forget the whole thing. But don't add "Can we still be friends?", because if it's a friend asking you out, this will definitely throw your friendship out the window. Just be calm and let the other person take his/her time..

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Stay friends, if they like you nothing should have changed in your relationship. If they get mad or upset at you, remember, it's not your fault! Try leaving them alone for a few days so that they can cool off. If they care for you and understand you, they will not ruin the friendship and will try to bring everything back to normal. If they are still mad at you, they weren't true friends in the first place.
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If you want to stay friends with the person, make sure from the beginning that you don't want more, so nobody gets hurt. Be clear from the start that nothing more than a friendship will be possible. Do not lead them on!
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Don't say you aren't ready to date someone and then turn around and start dating another person a few weeks/months later. This will only ruin your friendship and make you look like a liar. If you just don't want to go out with this particular person, don't say, "I am not ready for a relationship," then have a new partner the next day. Just be honest with the person and say, "I don't want a relationship with you." Or you could just friend-zone them. If you have plans to date somebody, but not the one who just asked you out, tell the truth and explain you can't be with that person.
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If you like the person and think that you could possibly develop feelings by getting to know each other, you better say that! Be honest and tell him/her that you want to take it slowly. If they really like you, they will respect your decision!
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Young people face such problems pretty often; don't say 'no' under any sort of pressure. Instead of giving in to this pressure, be honest. If you go on a date half- heartedly, you'll not only be unfair to the other person but to yourself, too. Avoid these complications and turn down your date with compassion and honesty.
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If you are too scared to do anything, take some time! But if you know you don't want to date this person - or date at all - say your parents don't allow you to date. This will make them feel like you're not trying to avoid dating them, but tell them that maybe when you're ready you might date them.
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If this person has a bad reputation, say you don't feel comfortable with that! It is your choice, and you should not do what you feel uncomfortable doing!
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Spend more time with friends or family and take your mind off dating. Do not feel pressured into dating before you're ready! It's definitely not worth it, especially before graduating high school!
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If they make you feel guilty for not feeling the same, ignore it. You should not feel guilty because you of all people would know who you want to be with.
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It's important that you give yourself a wider variety of activities instead of focusing on guys/girls and dating. Go out, take photographs, go on a walk, or visit somewhere new. You'll learn that you are capable of doing stuff on your own, so when you get into a relationship, you won't be clingy and needy. Remember that you are your own person!
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If you're not interested in someone or aren't ready, don't lead them on! It is better to be honest up front to make sure you don't let the person down when they're already feeling a connection. This is the friend zone tactic. It will probably hurt the other person, so you may want to acknowledge that you'll still be there for them and you still hope you can be friends.
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Try as much as possible to be open to reveal your reasons for acting this way, so as to allow for future acquaintances.
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Be clear on how you feel, if you were trying to date someone and they acted like they like you and you found out that they weren't ready wouldn't you want them to tell you in the first place that they were not ready?
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Remember never flirt with them, but make sure you are still friendly to them at the same time!
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Don't forget that most relationships end badly (especially early ones), so wait till you're sure you're ready for a relationship, and make sure it's the right person!

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Be honest.
If you do end up going out with them, take it slow until you are comfortable, if you cant, its probably not a good match.
Be as nice as possible.
Don't go out with another guy/girl right after you said no to him/her. But if you do change your mind about dating and want to go out with someone later on say that to the "original" person so they now that it wasn't just a big lie! Still make it obvious you aren't interested.
If you dislike the person in question tell them that you aren't interested in them in that way. Honesty is the only way to get them to understand where they stand.
Try to still be friends and hang out sometimes.
Whenever you are ready for a relationship, make sure that he/she knows, if you like them, that is.
Don't avoid friendships out of fear of being asked out, and having to say no.
Don't feel pressured to do something you aren't ready for.
Don't lead someone on.
Don't let your feelings of loneliness convince you to ignore the fact that you aren't ready. Hang out with friends or family if you need to.
Always be yourself.
Don't listen to or mind what others say.Be Focus
If the suitor becomes overly aggressive to the point where you feel your life is in danger, seek help from a trusted adult.
If you are feeling guilt tripped or pressured into something even though it's not what you want, then break it off in the beginning. It saves tons of unnecessary heartbreak and drama later on.
If you just want to hook up with no commitment, be up front about it. Never use false feelings or lies to get what you want.
If somebody doesn't respect your decision and gets angry, it's better to avoid any relation with that person in order to secure your own well being!
Always speak the truth, say whats on your mind!
Never give into peer pressure to date someone

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if he gets mad tell your parents because he might threaten to hurt or do something to you or your loved ones

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