
The practice of "letting it be," no matter what or whom we apply it to, is really an invitation and permission slip to ourselves -- to drop into and be in this very moment, with what it actually contains, and to stop having to reject 'now' in the hopes of a different 'now.' This is the true gift of "letting it be."
It's always valuable to think about if there are any actions we take that push our partner away. If we're acting in a way we respect, and we still don't feel like we're getting what we want, we can make a conscious decision to talk about it with our partner or change the situation, but we never have to feel victimized or allow ourselves to act in ways that we don't respect.