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If your a girl, and your feeling shy around a guy that you really want to ask out, these are the steps that can get you the guy you really like!

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    Start off Slow. If you immediately ask them out, and they have no idea that you even existed, that's probably not the way you want it to go. You want to introduce yourself, and get to know a little bit about them.
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    Become friends with them. Just by getting to know the person better enhances your chances of them getting to like you. Focus on friendship for now, take it slow, and then, move on to dating.
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    Asking them out. This is a really tough part,because if you haven't already come out of your shell with that person, then you probably never will. But, if you are feeling confident and ready, then you should go ahead and try. Just come up to them one day in the hall, or whenever you feel the right time, and ask them casually about their opinion on dating. If they say that they aren't really interested in the topic, and aren't really ready, that's fine. You can still go ahead and ask them. This would be a good start, " What do you think about, you know, if you and i could go out?" If they stare at you dumbfounded, then just laugh at it, and say that it was a joke; but if he looks up at you shyly, then its also a possibility that he likes you too, but has just been shy about it as well.
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  • If you know he likes a sport go up to him and as something like, did you see the game last night? Or, Can you believe the game last night? This will cause him to talk to you about a topic he is comfortable with.
  • Continue to act as friends, but just REALLY close ones. And remember that you shouldn't change yourself for him just because you started dating: he obviously liked you they way you were, and he would not be dating you if you acted differently.
  • Look And Dress Smart. Don't change your style for him. If your favorite color is green, but he hates that color, don't stop wearing the color: you never know, you may come to school, or to clubs, or to sports dressed in green and he might change his mind and tell you that you look pretty
  • Have A Good Time! If you aren't enjoying your time together, and you start to not like them as much, talk to them about it. Tell them that you are unsure of your feelings and that you want some time by yourself to think. If the experience isn't what you thought it would be, and it's not going very well, then he isn't the guy for you. But don't cry over him, there will be plenty of other guys!
  • What do you do after you ask them out?? If you have classes with them, you could walk side-by-side with them. Put his arm around the back of your neck. It's a casual gesture that can mean anything: dating, or just being really good friends; this is a good way of expressing that you are going to go out, but it is only known by you and your guy: everyone else probably thinks that you guy's are just really good friends.
  • Get Together! Don't be afraid to ask him over to your house sometime. If your mom says that you can't date until your 18, tell her that you are just friends, or that you have a project due and you guys are partners. Or, if you live near each other, if you see them outside, you could ask them to play soccer, throw the football, or shoot some hoops with you.
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