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So there is this boy who won't leave you alone. You're 100% through with him, but you also hear he has Asperger's Syndrome. Which is no excuse for stalking. All he wants is a friend to hang out with, but the social world is a very challenging place for Autistic people, and are only comfortable with very certain people. You are one of them. You don't want him around, but you don't want him to get upset. Here is how you can help.

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    Get him to understand how you feel. Understanding is difficult. Most autistic people have difficulty hanging with different people if they're stuck on you. Try to talk to him about how you feel. It is hard, If you can simply talk to him, he will feel better. He has probably learned from the mistakes he made with you from you ignoring him. He wants you to forgive him and be friends again.
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    If you have him blocked on social media, unblock him, but not until after you've done everything. It might seem kind of selfish, but he really just wants to be friends with you again.
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    Set limits and/or deals. Tell him that you and him can be friends as long as "favor", then explain why. If he says "Sure!", then become friends again. If he refuses, then tell him you refuse to be his friend if he won't do it. Explain how often he is allowed to look at your profile on Facebook (or any other social media accounts you have) or give feedback on your posts.
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    Hang out. Do this for at least 3 times. If you feel like you need to do so, you can set limits on how long you and him can be friends. Set specific times when he can and cannot hang out. Set at least 5-20 times a year for when he can hang out with you and be a normal friend. Text messaging, seeing each others' Tumblr accounts, etc. One in nine times you see him in public, have a small 2-10 sentence conversation with him.
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    Confess. If he gets suspicious about something that could get him into trouble, then take some deep breaths and calm down. Practice telling him the truth to a friend or authority figure. Then tell him what happened.

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EditTips

  • It helps to look up Autism and Asperger's Syndrome on Wikipedia. You will probably get some unique information there.
  • If you have any other friends or know someone else with Asperger's Syndrome, ask them what it's like and how being social is hard.
  • Find out some stuff you have in common with him, like a hobby, a band, a characteristic, a trait, etc.
  • If he shows you something, it helps to say something like "Cool!", but complement him on the details. It will help him understand how "cool" you think his thing is.

EditWarnings

  • If you have a boyfriend, but the boyfriend isn't him, try not to have the rumor get to him. You don't want him to get in a fight with your boyfriend or argue over if you are his, or your boyfriend's, do you?
  • If you have your parent, or a best friend of yours, talk to him, chances are he won't believe it unless you say it to him, and they think you and him don't do well as friends, but you think they really do. If you tell him you don't like them in person, either he will realize your friend was right when they told him you hate him, or he'll be too stuck on you and think your friends are putting peer pressure on you.

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Categories: Social Interactions for Youth

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