Discussion:Accept Blame when You Deserve It

not good enough

Blah blah blah - Utter waste of time. Just say sorry, move on.

i think that this article is very intersted .

This article sounds good.

this could NEVER work in a government entity, therefore it is invaild

"But saying things like, "Well, if he hadn't done this then I wouldn't have done that." is lame."

subjective opinion, i don't agree.

This article makes it sound so easy but in a corporate "dog eat dog" world this will never fly. People just wait for you to mess up so they can point it out and make themselves look better.

Worked according this principle for many years and it had earned me the respect of friends AND enemies (in fact, it scares them silly and I pre-emptively rob them of potential ammuniation to undermine my position). The team I lead follows the same principle and it being respected throughout the company for their level of profesionalism.

if you are in a situation where this methodology would not work, you are obviously at a wrong place wasting your time...

Although stepping up IS important-the most important thing is to first quietly get the attention of the leader (or whole group if you ARE the leader(; point out your thinking and where it was flawed-that way you can correct the mistake without actually saying so-you are saying that your thought or plan was flawed so there is no mistake that you deliberately mislead

The key to getting the value out of this wikihow is understanding the purpose and goals of your job, or whatever other activity you are engaged with.

If you are working someplace or taking part in an activity for which you feel there are no important goals, or you can't identify any goals of the activity, as 83.71.247.98 says, you should be actively finding something else to do with your time. You may be incompetent at the job, or the organization as a whole is incompetent.

It is never easy to admit a mistake, but coming to the wikihow page and saying that admitting mistakes is stupid or irrelevant is another colossal waste of your time. Terrible things happen sometimes when people refuse to admit mistakes. I suppose that making sure that the mistake is uncovered as quickly as possible, even while trying to hide your role in it, is BETTER than letting the mistake balloon "quietly" while you desperately hide from recognition.

I would like to encourage all of you who can't admit mistakes to learn to admit mistakes. It makes you a strong, confident, trusted, responsible person. If you work somewhere where strong, confident, trusted, responsible people are not appreciated, it will not be hard to find a great job, where strong, confident, trusted, responsible people are not only appreciated, valued, and HIREABLE, but your co-workers will be strong, confident, trusted, responsible people too!!

Someone deleted the content and put in stupid stuff.

try telling that to a politician of any party,u.s.a.

there is much assumption of fault here and no direct recognition of the difference between blame and responsibility. also there are plenty of times when standing up for what you know is right is directly contrary to the advice given in this article

I think was an excellent article. I just read it out loud with my 8 year old son and even he understands and it helps both him and me when discussing his troubles he has had at school. I am trying to work with him at a very early age to accept responsibility for his actions and also realize there are consequences, good or bad, to all of our actions. My son was even surprised when the article said, even parents and teachers make mistakes. I think that will help him know that not everyone is perfect. It is not perfection, but practice. I think this was a very timely and helpful article. Thank you/

again, the google gadget disappoints me

This would true in a perfect after the fact situation. However some higher ups are just waiting to get people into trouble to make themselves look good. With this said it is a very well written and sound advice How To. Thank You for your time.

K.

what is wrong with holding up the good!

Do you want you SON be a resiponsible person that stand firm and gain respect from others?

I know the world is cruel and reality is hard fact of our life. But if we are human being, not dog, then stand up and live like a human.

If you do take this belief, what is your belief?

I could not have said it better myself!!!! THank you WikiHow!!!!!

Maybe best WikiHow ever written. It's possible.

A couple of the comments above say that this will "never work" in a "dog-eat-dog" corporate environment where peers and higher-ups are just waiting to take advantage of other people's mistakes.

Question: what exactly do you mean that the advice in the article will never "work"? The article isn't about getting ahead, protecting yourself, or escaping consequences; it's about responding to your mistakes in an honest, responsible and dignified manner, regardless of what the other person does. The advice in the article will "work" in that manner (with, of course, some tailoring for individual circumstances).

It isn't always easy or comfortable to move through the world in a dignified manner, but what's the alternative? Maybe there should be an article titled: "How to be a cowardly, slinking, insecure bootlicker, who will hide his own mistakes because he's too afraid of his higher-ups to man up and own what he did."

very true article. might not always work in the corporate world though. however, perhaps the reason the corporate world is like that is because most people do NOT do what this article suggests.

I think it comes down to what people value. If one values success, power, advancement, and money, then one will do anything possible to attain these things, including not taking the blame. If one values one's reputation, integrity, relationships, coworkers, and the company they work for, one will take responsibility.

On this issue the corporate side would grab the opportunity to sack any blame taker. My advice is taking the shield of silence while the cat finds its way out of the bag.Am JOHN

You do not own the mistake as it is not property. You do own up to the mistake which means you admit that you did wrong. Grammar clarification.

good job! i like this article and think it realy helps

Very Good job to the author, some people just aren't honest enough these days.

Excellent article, and contains a great deal of useful advice for mature people willing and able to give it a try. Every time I discover I've made a mistake, I own up to it. Not doing so only prolongs the agony. As someone once said, "Crow is a dish best eaten fresh."

And as for the "dog-eat-dog" set: I fire dogs.

Everyone makes mistkes. EVERYONE Sometimes the problem isn't caused by just you, but also by someone else. This is how it usually works in the family. I or my parents do something wrong. Then I or my parents blame each other. The victimized party then reacts wrong. We get into a big blaming fight. Sometimes the way you react to a problem is wrong. But the other person who made the problem is also wrong.

hi... this is very gud n helpfull article.... if we live our life on d basis of corporate world, or just be a money making machine thn we can say these techniques woldnot work, but if we wnt to build a strong and honest base of our society thn we have to be honest and admit our mistakes..in the intial stage every good thing is rejected by peple, but as the time passes we all can recognize the importance of that thing.. the auther of this article is not saying anything that is out of this world, all aspects r from our society, we are the d society, remembr one thing we all want that our country ,our society should be curruption free, people should be loyal, n there should be piece in our world, but actuly we just want a transformation, not willing to do anything on their own basis,... just recognize you mistakes admit them and try to find out some proper and apropriate solution..... just implement on yourself, dnt thing abt other..

bcoz revoltion are always come with work n commitments... have a happy n loyal life....

FAC removed as it has already been featured and it's completely unclear to me why we need to refeature it again right now.

very useful and refreshing article. i'm at a crisis today where i have done something completely unacceptable. just when i was ruminating how to tell this prob to my parents this article caught me eye. i'll follow it sure!!!!